What’s stealing your energy...

Hi ,

And welcome to the fourth issue of The Fam. 

You know, I think we’ve gotten something really wrong about energy.

We treat it like a battery—something you drain and recharge. Get some sleep, eat a little better, maybe cut out the sugar and that should charge you up, right? 

We see energy messaged this way everywhere—LinkedIn posts with 10 top tips to increase energy, ads for super-supplements promising to make you feel like you’re in your twenties again, neon cans with bold letters that try to convince you that a cocktail of taurine and 160mg of caffeine are all you need to pick up the pace.

But that’s not quite right, is it? No supplement, drink, or micro-napping system really fixes the deep kind of tired I see in people. Not the kind I’ve felt in myself. Not the kind you might even be feeling now. 

The real exhaustion? It comes from disconnection. It roots in the quiet ache that the life you’re in doesn’t yet match the life you sense you could be living. That ache—that yearning—isn’t weakness. It’s sacred. It’s your soul trying to get your attention.

Because there’s a gap. Between who you are today and who you know, deep down, you could become. And living in that gap—without movement, without belief—drains you spiritually. Existentially. And yes, that also robs you of physical energy. 

So this week, I want to offer a reframe:

Energy isn’t just something you manage. It’s something you awaken.

And it doesn’t really begin with the typical type of rest—but with truth. With alignment. With faith in the person you haven’t fully met yet—but are being called to become. Let’s talk about it a little deeper…

Where in your life are you saying yes out of obligation—and no to what actually fuels you?

You might think you’re just tired. But what if you’re not just physically drained?

What if there is something deeper?

Energy isn’t a new concept—it actually came from the ancient Greeks. Aristotle had a word: energia, which we took for our own and translated as ‘Energy’. But Aristotle wasn’t referencing a physical thing here. No, he was talking about something much more profound, which unlocks a world of possibility when we really understand it. 

Energia is rooted in two words: en (meaning within) and ergon (work). So, together, this means “the work within”. So when we talk about energy, we’re really talking about the inner work of becoming ourselves.

And here’s the truth that no one tells us: the deepest kind of fatigue doesn’t come from doing too much. It comes from doing less than what your soul is calling for. Stepping away from that ‘work within’ to pour yourself into external work that isn’t aligned with who you are or want to become.

If you’re spending your days doing work that doesn’t matter to you… if you’re saying yes when you mean no… if you’re constantly betraying what you really want in order to keep the peace, or avoid risk, or fit into someone else’s plan—you will be tired. Deeply, chronically tired.

Because energy isn’t just physical. And it isn’t tactical. Energy is moral. Energy is existential. Energy is personal.

You’ve probably felt it. The low hum of frustration. The quiet ache that there’s more in you—but no space to explore it, maybe no time. You’ve been showing up, handling responsibilities, pushing through… but not quite living. Not fully.

And the world keeps handing you surface-level fixes. More sleep. Better routines. The latest wellness trends. All are great—health, wellness, and rest practices that fit your lifestyle can only help, right? 

But what if energy isn’t something you get back? What if it’s something you awaken?

Not by adding more to your plate—but by stripping away what doesn’t belong. What doesn’t align.

Because energy isn’t just a resource to manage. It’s a force that rises when you begin honoring the person you’re meant to become. When your life starts to reflect your truth—even in small, ordinary ways.

And the shift doesn’t begin when everything is fixed. It begins when you stop disqualifying yourself from your own future. When you say: I’m willing to step in. I’m willing to try.

That’s the moment of awakening. A quiet ‘yes’ to your own becoming.

Living Fully Alive doesn’t mean you’re always certain or always “on.” It means you’re in motion. Aligned. Awake to what matters. Even when it’s hard. Especially when it’s hard.

Because to go from just getting by to really living—you must feel deeply. And act with heart.

And that kind of energy? It’s always been there. Waiting for you to claim it.

All this thinking about Energy, and awakening to what's within reminds me of Zach, an amazing young man I met at Porter Pipe.

He started in the warehouse. Nothing fancy. Just showing up every day, doing the work. But when I had lunch with a group of team members there, Zach leaned in. I didn’t ask much—just a few casual questions, getting to know people. 

But Zach… he wanted to share something. He was absolutely beaming. Zach told me he wanted more. And not in some entitled way—not “more” as in a raise or a title or corner office. 

It was deeper. He wanted to grow. He wanted to step into something greater. He wanted to see who he could become.

And so—he shared that want. Out loud. To his supervisors. To the executive leadership. “I want more for myself.”

That moment right there? That’s energy. Not the caffeine buzz kind. The kind that rises up when you decide to believe that the person you sense you could become… is real. Is worth it. Is possible and attainable. 

And what happened next? They listened. They helped him map a path and he stepped into a new role in purchasing. He had momentum. He had pride. And you could see it written all over him when he talked about it.

That’s what energy looks like when it’s not drained or buried—but claimed.

👉 I’d love to hear your stories. If you’ve ever taken a step—big or small—toward the life that calls you, I’d love to hear about it. Reply to this email—I read every single response. 

Last November, I was in Athens, Greece, for the second time, walking the steps of Socrates, Plato, and Aristotle. Being completely immersed in that environment, learning, and thinking sparked me to write something in my journal on my second day there: 

“The moment of potential. Right now, anything is possible. I can create what I dream of creating. What my inner voice—my inner Divine is calling me to create… Step forward with energy and zest, courage and bravery, creativity and leadership. Step forward with love.”

And my inner voice had been telling me for some time that I needed to find a way to bring people together—those who are ready to work on themselves, fulfill their potential, live fully alive, and to ripple into the world as a Force for Good.

And none of that happens without energy. And as we explored today, energy is more than a sleep or eating hack.  The energy we need for life comes from within, listening to this inner calling and knowing that who I am today does not define who I am tomorrow.

And one of the beauties of The FAM is that we have a chance to come together to fuel each other. I’m honored to be on this journey with you and can not wait to see the energy you put into becoming the best, most joyful and fulfilled you. 

Here’s to living fully alive,

P.S. I’m really curious. What is one word to describe what you are thinking or feeling as result of today’s email? And why that word? Let me know! 

We’re on a mission to empower one million people to live Fully Alive, and you’re one of them!